Vol. 9

Vol. 9

The Empowering Internet Safety Guide for All of Us

She/He: *posts a sexy photo with explicit tagline*

Then: Posts about all the creeps that slide into their DM.

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(That last comment is what's killing us FAM) I fully 100% agree what we do say and call attention to with our bodies is our business. Though, fully knowing what world we live in. To excuse our conduct like it's some ticket to know harassment or unwanted comments would not exist is *eyerolling* annoying. Honey, this exists very much so. Accept that this behavior is similiar to a Fish Line for them to nibble on. (Are you a fisher or are you more mysterious and attractive without it?) Think about your intent what do you want from your posting sexy photos. The answer will come once internally you have sort it out.

Personally, I live by the golden rule through social media. My public profile of course has creeps and  other unwanted attention but why are we bothering opening that DM? What's our intent? Are we trying to find a possible DTF because as men or women, we are programmed to attract a mate and in the virtual world a social behavior with or without a IG, TikTok, Facebook, Twitter is to be wanted, paid attention to, flirted with, and boom "likability." 

Up your standards. If you're just naturally good looking, there's a filter I believe is learned to turn off at an early age. Sure you got hurt, sure someone kicked you off your high horse at some point but you got back on that Betch and rode off into your sunset. You attract what you want to see. I've learned this very young. However, when some of us go through finding ourselves from a breakup, losing friend, etc and in that process tend to alter things. *Change* is always good, but don't get caught in one dimension change because those people haven't changed their "fundamental" foundation and just thought changing their appearance would solve the problem. Sis & Bro, if you don't do the work upstairs trust me when I say this, there is no way you can keep someone "attracted" to you. Those looks will fade and people will see that toxic behavior camouflaged behind the curtain.